Have you observed a family of well-adjusted children recently…thoughtful, responsive, responsible, respectful, playful? How does your team stack up against this?
I find it interesting that many well adjusted children are found in families where space and responsibility (duties and care) are shared. There are strong parallels between successfully managing staff and managing our children.
Children (and staff) learn from who you are, not what you say
- Treat people as individuals – work to their strengths and preferences
- Establish clearly the difference between what is important and negotiable
- Giving them what they’re asking for is not what they’re asking for
- Individual time and attention brings exponential results
- They will do what they don’t want, if they know why it’s important to them
- Little things matter – it tells them your real values
- Diversity gives more strength than sameness
- Control perpetuates immaturity – ‘telling’ prevents people owning a job
- Play is the best approach to work!
- Laughter is golden, silence is not (check out the havoc done in quiet)
- If you’re having a bad day or sick – tough. It’s no longer just about you
- Integrity and commercial goals DO mix – their congruence is essential
‘Proof in the pudding’
I have just turned fifty, my children are now 23-30 and I have 3 grandchildren aged 4-7. They are all outstanding people.
As a result of growing up overseas, I have lived in a secure home and in a hostel-style home. I have raised four children, most of the time in a functional family. I dedicated many years to doing all the creative-mum things, to give our children a strong foundation. When my youngest was 2, I began straddling the twin lives of parent-spouse and very successful leader of a direct selling business. Success hinged on inspiring and developing people, which I had to learn on the run. I also drew on my experience as a mother to give my people what they needed to create and sustain success.
Successful parenting looks toward a long term outcome rather than gratifying the short term. It also provides opportunity for learning and celebrates taking action.
Thoughts from Liz the Mum, Nanna and Leader.