“He’s always forgetting what I’ve asked him to do…She never starts anything till near deadline.”
Forgetfulness and procrastination would be the two most frustrating complaints team members and life partners suffer against each other.
- Why does your colleague make work stressful by procrastinating on project tasks? Why can’t she learn to prioritize?
- Why should your partner have to be reminded about duties or tasks? Why won’t he carry his share of the responsibility?
Many years managing high performers has confirmed to me this truth on motivation:
“People do what they WANT to do”, and also, “People avoid what they DON’T WANT to do”.
You will see this lived out in habitual behaviour.
“I don’t have enough time” is not true
The truth is he has a different agenda – whether he admits it or is even aware. Assurances of “I do care!” or “I won’t forget next time!” are just words. Consistent or habitual behaviour tells you the truth of a person’s values.
Conflicting words-actions is a mis-alignment of values
This dis-connect is what a leader (or spouse) must unearth, if they are to get performance and ownership from the person. It makes no difference how much he (she) protests, “I DO care…I’m just so busy!” If your colleague does not perceive that his actions are connected to his values or purpose, he will always need prodding, make excuses and let the team down.
Actions must be perceived as connected to values, to get motivation
Aligning actions-values is not just about making life easier. Mis-alignment is a certain predictor of de-motivation, low performance and even dissent.
If team members – and most dangerously leaders – do not perceive their roles support their values, your business is losing frightening levels of profit. And beware of this mis-alignment in a life partnership.
Where have you seen consistent forgetfulness or procrastination at work or at home? Are you prepared to look below the surface and find the answer to the un-inspiring sales figures?