In Part 1 we introduced the idea that, just as there are physical laws, there are mental laws that are always there and neutral – they will work for you in the positive or negative. I recommend you review that section before continuing here. We are not in control of everything but we can control our minds, and that has huge creative impact. Today let’s look at the first two ‘Mental Laws’.
The Law of Control
You will feel positive about yourself to the degree to which you are in control of your life, and you will feel negative about yourself to the degree that you feel you are not in control or some other person, influence or external force has control.
Bad debts, your boss, your ill health, a bad relationship or the bad behaviour of others can cause stress. This stress usually manifests as anger, irritation and resentment, and leads to insomnia, depression or illness.
You can choose to have an internal or external locus of control, that is you can feel in charge of your own life – happy, positive and confident. Or you can feel controlled by others – helpless, trapped, much like a victim.
Control over your life begins with your thoughts. Your thoughts are the only thing you can have complete control over.
No person or situation can make you feel anything.
You can control the way you think.
You can get control of any situation that causes you stress by taking action to change it or by simply walking away.
You must be decisive. Being in control gives you self-confidence.
Decide where you feel positive and in control and where you don’t.
Think of the things that you could do to get control over the parts of your life causing you stress, and also those you are better walking away from.
The Law of Cause and Effect
For every effect in your life, there is a cause. Everything happens for a reason.
Thoughts are causes and conditions are effects. If you sow the right causes, you reap the desired effects. For example, if you do high quality work and achieve the results needed to grow and prosper, you’ll be successful and happy. If you treat others well, they’ll treat you well. You’ll get out of life what you put in – and you control what you put in.
“Whatever you are reaping today is the result of what you have sown in the past. If you wish to reap a different result in any area of your life in the future, you need to plant different mental seeds today.”
Everything you are, or ever will be, will be the result of the way you think.
If you change the quality of your thinking, you change the quality of your life.
By accepting this immutable law you take full control over your thinking, your feelings and your results.
By applying the law of Cause and Effect, you bring yourself into harmony with the law of Control. You immediately feel happier about yourself.
In Part 3 we look below the surface of our thinking to beliefs and expectations. These can be so embedded that you mistake them for being empirical truth and an immovable part of your makeup. These areas are powerful drivers. As you reflect with brutal truthfulness, you may already pinpoint why your current life is not where you’d like it.