On a bi-weekly basis, the first 2 Parts have lightly introduced the power of our mental life in creating outcomes – both desired and undesirable – because there are mental laws just as there are physical laws like gravity.
The Law of Belief
Whatever you believe, with feeling, becomes a reality. Your beliefs give you a form of tunnel vision. For example, if you absolutely believe that you are meant to be a great success, then no matter what happens you will continue to go forward. Nothing will stop you. OR if you believe that success is a matter of luck or accident, then you will easily be discouraged and disappointed whenever things don’t work out for you. Your belief sets you up for either success or failure.
A pessimistic person sees injustice, oppression and misfortune everywhere. When things go wrong they blame it on ‘bad luck’ or other people.
Optimists tend to be movers and shakers. They are positive and cheerful and see the world as a good place to be.
Self-limiting beliefs – limit you in some way. You may feel limited in intelligence because you got mediocre or average grades at school. You may believe you are limited in creative capacity or in your ability to learn and remember. Perhaps you believe you are not very outgoing or smart about money. Some people feel they cannot lose weight, quit smoking or be attractive to members of the opposite sex.
Whatever your belief – if you believe it strongly enough – it becomes your reality.
Most of your self-limiting beliefs are not true at all. They are based on negative information taken in and accepted as true. You should begin to identify any self-limiting beliefs that might be holding you back.
The Law of Expectations
Whatever you expect with confidence becomes your own self-fulfilling prophecy. “What you get in life is not necessarily what you want in life, but what you expect”.
Successful men and women have an attitude of confident, positive self-expectancy. They expect to be successful, they expect to be liked, to be happy and are seldom disappointed.
4 Types of Expectations
Expectations of your parents.
If they expected you to do well and positively encouraged you, this will have had an enormous influence on the person you have become.
If they expressed negative expectations or no expectations, you may be unconsciously saddled with those negative expectations.
Expectations of your Boss.
People who work with bosses with positive expectations are always happier, perform better and get more work done than those who work with negative and critical people.
Expectations that you have of your children, your spouse and your employees or colleagues.
The more important you are in the life of someone else means the more powerfully will your expectations affect their performance. Always confidently and constantly expect the best from others. People will always try not to disappoint you.
Expectations you have of yourself.
Your expectations are powerful enough to override any negative expectations anyone else may have of you. You can create a positive mental energy around you.
If you go around all day believing that something wonderful was about to happen to you – think how much more positive and happy you would be.
Try this exercise – it works:
“Something wonderful is going to happen to me today”.
Since our beliefs and expectations leverage so much of our life, it’s worth some inner auditing. In Part 4 we continue our inner-to-outer journey, as Goethe said: “One must be something to be able to do something”.